Raped Too Much?

This weekend on Fox News Liz Trotta, no stranger to controversy, showed herself to be totally insensitive and strangely misogynistic. In her discussion with host Eric Shawn she made several inflammatory statements.

 “Women once more, the feminists, going, wanting to be warriors and victims at the same time.”

Let me get this straight: she is saying if women sign up to fight for freedom and their country then they should expect to be raped and not complain about it. In other words, they should not expect to be able to serve alongside men without being sexually assaulted by her fellow soldiers.

“The sexual abuse report says there has been, since 2006, a 64% increase in violent sexual assaults. Now, what did they expect? These people are in close contact.”

What about every law abiding honorable male who has ever served in the military? They should receive medals for restraint! After all,no man can keep himself from raping a woman when they are “in close contact.” So, Ms. Trotta, should every woman who is in “close contact with a man” expect to be raped?

“So, you have this whole bureaucracy being built up with all kinds of levels of people to support women in the military who are now being RAPED TOO MUCH.”

Now honestly, is this woman trying to assert that there is an amount of rape which is not “too much”?  Exactly how much rape is too much, Ms. Trotta?

Ms. Trotta lays the responsibilities for these rapes squarely at the feet of “the feminist.” Dictionary.com defines feminist as one who is, “advocating social, political, legal, and economic rights for women equal to those of men.”  I fail to see how advocating for such rights causes fellow soldiersto rape one another. After all, I am assuming Ms. Trotta is not herself a feminist and yet she seems to think that the raping of female soldiers is to be expected. Perhaps people with her way of thinking are actually the problem and not “the feminist”.

Sadly, this just seems like the same worn out reasoning that doing the wrong thing, acting the wrong way, wearing the wrong clothes, or frankly just having a vagina means women are asking for it. Please. Really? Are we STILL blaming the women for all sexual sin?

Melissa McEwan in her book Shakesville puts it this way:

Rape culture is 1 in 6 women being sexually assaulted in their lifetimes. Rape culture is not even talking about the reality that many women are sexually assaulted multiple times in their lives. Rape culture is the way in which the constant threat of sexual assault affects women’s daily movements. Rape culture is telling girls and women to be careful about what you wear, how you wear it, how you carry yourself, where you walk, when you walk there, with whom you walk, whom you trust, what you do, where you do it, with whom you do it, what you drink, how much you drink, whether you make eye contact, if you’re alone, if you’re with a stranger, if you’re in a group, if you’re in a group of strangers, if it’s dark, if the area is unfamiliar, if you’re carrying something, how you carry it, what kind of shoes you’re wearing in case you have to run, what kind of purse you carry, what jewelry you wear, what time it is, what street it is, what environment it is, how many people you sleep with, what kind of people you sleep with, who your friends are, to whom you give your number, who’s around when the delivery guy comes, to get an apartment where you can see who’s at the door before they can see you, to check before you open the door to the delivery guy, to own a dog or a dog-sound-making machine, to get a roommate, to take self-defense, to always be alert always pay attention always watch your back always be aware of your surroundings and never let your guard down for a moment lest you be sexually assaulted and if you are and didn’t follow all the rules it’s your fault.

Apparently now we can add if you join the military and if you are in close contact with men to this list. The EVER. GROWING. LIST.  Maybe, just maybe, Ms. Trotta would be happier if we all wore burqas and never left the house unless we were with a male relative. After all, that would surely fix the problem.

Girls can’t/shouldn’t/wouldn’t want to do that. -or- Rick Santorum & the DISD are out of touch.

Today Rick Santorum is in serious spin mode. Yesterday he said, “I want to create every opportunity for women to be able to serve this country, and they do so in an amazing and wonderful way and they’re a great addition — and they have been for a long time — to the armed services of our country.”  BUT?  “But I do have concerns about women in front-line combat, I think that could be a very compromising situation, where people naturally may do things that may not be in the interest of the mission, because of other types of emotions that are involved,” Santorum continued. “It already happens, of course, with the camaraderie of men in combat, but I think it would be even more unique if women were in combat, and I think that’s probably not in the best interest of men, women or the mission.”

This morning on the Today show he qualified his statement this way. “I think that when you have men and women in combat, I think men have emotions when you see a women in harm’s way I think that’s something that’s natural that’s very much in our culture to be protective. That was my concern, I think that’s a concern with all the military.”

I personally am with of the Washington Post on this one. In her article she says, “At first, he questions the prospect of women in the military serving in roles closer to the front lines because of “other types of emotions that are involved.” Then he clarifies it to say he meant men’s emotions, their cultural tendency to “be protective” that would surely skew their decisions in combat. So he insults the professionalism, sacrifice and military discipline of both male and female soldiers. I don’t think that solves his problem.”

Somewhere in the second theater of the war…

Last night after finishing a fantastic family night of takeout Chinese and American Idol the news popped on, here we heard this story:

DALLAS – The Dallas school district took students on a $57,000 field trip Thursday to see a movie.

The district bused about 5,000 fifth grade boys to the Mesquite 30 Theater to see the movie “Red Tails” because it coincides with lessons about World War II and Black History Month.

The movie is about the Tuskegee Airmen, the African American pilots who distinguished themselves by their bravery during the war.

The fifth grade girls had to stay behind and watch the movie “Akeelah and the Bee” in the classroom. That’s because teachers decided the trip would appeal more to boys than girls. But later this month the girls will get their turn on a field trip to visit with a group of female mentors.

Still, some parents think the Tuskegee Airmen field trip would have been good for boys and girls.

“That doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. I think they all would have enjoyed it. It’s part of history. They should have been able to go see it,” said Amanda Copeland, a parent.

The districts admits it did have to pay up $32,000 to rent the movie theater and $25,000 for bus transportation, but said it will get reimbursed with federal grant money.

I have a NUMBER of issues with this.

#1. “Teachers decided the trip would appeal more to boys than girls” The boys saw Red Tails about the Tuskegee Airmen and the girls will be going to hear a group of 100 women mentors. Really?

#2. In another article Dallas ISD spokesman Jon Dahlander said, “There is only so much available space at the movie theater, so the decision was made for boys to attend the movie” Really?

#3. Separating the kids by gender for field trips has been going on for a couple years

#4. We are going to spend 57k taking 5000 boys to this movie when we have a 25 million dollar budget shortfall in the DISD, we laid off at least 200 teachers last year, and we closed 11 schools last year? Really?

#5. Its okay, we are (probably) going to be reimbursed by the Federal Government. Really?

Now to address them

#1. Did they ask the kids what appealed to them more or are they assuming because it is about war and the Tuskegee Airmen (who were all men) that the girls wouldn’t be interested? That is akin to only sending the African American children because the Tuskegee Airmen were all African American. Ridiculous. Also, since when is what appeals more to the kids the issue? Are we not making the decision based on educational points. The District is now trying to claim that is was an educational decision. The District said this was a supplement to the unit on WWII that the kids are learning about in the classroom. So what, pray tell, does Akeelah and the Bee have to do with WWII? Why did the boys receive the supplement to the unit and the girls did not? Retired Air Force Capt. Barbara A. Wilson, who manages a website about women in the military, called Dallas ISD’s decision to exclude girls ridiculous. “It sounds like something from the dark ages,” she said. “What century is this?” I would recommend they read about the women of the Israel Defense Forces. One recent graduate of their Ground Forces officer training course, Orian Levy who is 19 years old, enlisted in 2009, to be a combat soldier at the MLRS battalion in the Artillery Corps. Even though she serves in a unit specializing in operating heavy weaponry, she says that “female combat soldiers are treated just the same as male ones.” It was very important to her to go to officer’s course, from which she graduated with honors, in order to instill values in her soldiers. Her motto is: “I’ve always been there for my friends, and I will be there for my future soldiers.”

I have the same concern with why the boys won’t be going to hear the 100 women mentors later this month. This just says to the boys, women mentors are only for girls; they have nothing to offer to boys. Perhaps if we begin affording boys more exposure to powerful and successful women we will change the thought that men and boys have nothing to learn from them. I really hoped we were getting past these types of things in society if not in the church.

#2. Shelley Correll, an associate sociology professor at Stanford University who writes about gender equity in education, said Dallas ISD should have provided equal opportunities for all students. “Not having space for everyone does not justify using gender to decide who gets to participate in an educational outing,” she said. “This sort of blatant gender discrimination is actually quite shocking in 2012.” THAT.

#3. According to the DISD rep this is not out of the ordinary. How is this supposed to make me feel better? It just makes me think why did it take us this long to hear about it? Was it the money? If so that is sad. Just sad.

#4. I have seen people saying that the 11 or so dollars per kid isn’t that expensive for a field trip. However as my brilliant husband said in a Facebook comment thread on this subject, “$60k may or may not be cheap, but that isn’t the point. In this terrible economy, one can buy a Hatteras Yacht really, really cheap. But if a person cannot afford to pay their rent on their apartment, it probably isn’t a good idea to go spend money on a yacht. This is just another example of unwise government spending.” I do love that man.

#5. This is supposed to make me feel better? As my amazing husband also said so eloquently in the same thread, “Reimbursed by federal grant money? So, let me see if I get this right. WE pay OUR taxes to D.C, they scrub off a bunch to pay a boat load of bureaucrats to sit around and decide that the money should be earmarked for special events (like movies?), DISD pays a boat load of bureaucrats to decide to use the grant money to take kids to the movies, and I am now supposed to be happy with DISD’s explanation that none of “our” money was used? Huh? Do people really believe there is some magical source of money flowing from D.C.? News flash for DISD leaders: It is our money!” Um yeah, we are the federal government and, by the way, this is part of the reason why the Federal Government is swimming in the red.

Some days I am encouraged by the way things are going and the progress that is being made. Some days, I decidedly am not.