Dear Mr. Huckabee,
Yesterday you gave a speech in which you said,
“If the Democrats want to insult the women of America by making them believe that they are helpless without Uncle Sugar coming in and providing for them a prescription each month for birth control because they cannot control their libido or their reproductive system without the help of the government, then so be it,” Huckabee said at the RNC winter meeting. “Let’s take that discussion all across America.”
May I respectfully submit that you are thoroughly and completely missing the point of the conversation. Let’s start with the subject at hand: the Affordable Care Act’s mandated contraceptive coverage. There are many points being made by the Democrats about this coverage, none of which is that “women are helpless” and “cannot control their libido or reproductive system” without the help of the government. Personally I resent the statement that women who want their private insurance companies to be required to cover birth control are akin to having a sugar daddy. Mr. Huckabee, if your goal with this speech was to dispel the myth that there is a war on women, you are doing it wrong.
Up until recently, I have been a life-long Republican. It amazes me that there isn’t a meeting where someone from Party HQ sits every candidate and elected official down and says, listen, “STOP TALKING ABOUT WOMEN AND SEX AND BODY PARTS. It never goes well for us.” Honestly, what is amazing to me is that when you sat down to write this speech with your speech writers and advisors, you all thought this sounded like something that would play well with American women. Heck, my guess is that this line of bs doesn’t even go over well with most Republican women.
Let me tell you a little bit about myself. I grew up in a middle class American home. As I said before, I have been a life-long Republican until recently. I am 44 and have been married since I was 18 years old (26 years – thought I’d save you the math). I come from a military family and my father is a decorated retired Air Force Colonel. My husband and I waited 13 years to get pregnant with our first child. I have 2 beautiful children and 1 lost to miscarriage. I have never had an abortion (not that it is any of your business). My husband was the first in his family to graduate from college and now holds a JD from Pepperdine University. I have a BFA in Graphic Design from The University of Texas at Arlington. We did not always live as comfortably as we do now. When we were young, my husband and I had to rely on Planned Parenthood for free/low cost birth control pills. Thank God for them. At the time we had no health insurance and the cost of going to an Ob/Gyn and the prescription was just more than we had. I want you to know a few things, Mr. Huckabee,
- I did not need “Uncle Sugar” to help me control my libido. I was married.
- I was, by going to Planned Parenthood, controlling my reproductive system.
- I was not helpless, but I would have been without the services provided to me by Planned Parenthood.
- My husband and I knew we were not ready to be parents, but we would have been forced to practice less effective methods of birth control were it not for PP.
Sir, I understand you do not personally think I needed the government to control my libido, etc., but you think that the Democrats do. YOU ARE AGAIN MISSING THE POINT. The point is…
Providing women with free/low cost Ob/Gyn care and birth control empowers them to be able to follow through on exercising wise and informed family planning. Also, studies show that providing free birth control actually REDUCES ABORTIONS. And isn’t that something we can agree on?
I personally am done having babies and using birth control. However, I am happy to pay my ACA health plan premiums so that other women and families can be provided the services I was, but at their doctor’s office instead of Planned Parenthood. Why, when women just want to be responsible with their choices, do you not want to help them do so? As far as I can tell, you want to do away with the ACA and Planned Parenthood. What then, sir, are we as women supposed to do when we cannot afford a health plan that covers Ob/Gyn care as well as birth control? Have an abortion? I don’t think any of us want that. Have a baby when we cannot afford one or take care of one? Doesn’t that just cause more family and societal issues? What about adoption? What if every woman who has used birth control to prevent a pregnancy since the advent of modern contraception had just had all those babies and given them up for adoption? That would be MILLIONS of babies. Do you honestly think we would have homes for them all? We would have to go back to having orphanages. Not everyone would be able to afford to take care of those children, especially since younger people are most likely to be on birth control. Some of us would not have been able to finish college. And that would add even more people to the welfare system. Perhaps you think women should only have sex when they are prepared to have a baby and that couples should have as many children as God gives them. That is up to you and your wife; you get to make that choice. When and how others choose to plan their families is not up to you. With all due respect, butt out.
22 thoughts on “Mike Huckabee: A Lesson in Missing the Point”
“Also, studies show that providing free birth control actually REDUCES ABORTIONS”
I was curious, if I may–do you have a reference for this? I just like to look at who conducts studies, how many people are involved, what kinds of methodologies are used, and so on.
I do. I am out to dinner. I’ll get it to you ASAP. 🙂
A link closer to the source itself (Obstetrics and Gynecology) would have been welcome, but thank you anyway!
I think some politicians need to learn to choose their words wisely and to make them soft and tender, lest they have to eat them tomorrow–especially if they and their ideas have yet to gain popular trust with the people they are dealing with.
Thanks very much!
No problem. 🙂
You are amazing,
I don’t see how anyone who blindly supports ObamaCare like you do could have been a Republican? Taxpayer money should not be funding birth control.
Which would you rather taxpayer money go to, Joe, birth control, abortion or welfare?
Or taking all the men who don’t want to pay child support to court?
Why do you assume I “blindly” follow? Because I disagree with you?
It’s almost like Joe didn’t even read the article! This is great. My reproductive choices are no ones business.
You are most welcome! Thank you for reading!
It amazes me that there isn’t a meeting where someone from Party HQ sits every candidate and elected official down and says, listen, “STOP TALKING ABOUT WOMEN AND SEX AND BODY PARTS.
They actually had this conversation at the Republican Legislators Retreat last year (which was held at a conference center named after a Confederate General, but you know — minority outreach at its finest, right?). It didn’t take. It took something like two weeks before someone said something stupid about sex again.
As to Point Number 4 above: I don’t think you understand Mr. Huckabee’s point. He believes, a far as I can tell, that if you can’t afford birth control, and you don’t want to have children, then you should have never had sex with your husband.
Many Republicans really seem to believe that if you can’t afford something, then you shouldn’t have it. That’s it. No help. You aren’t entitled to it. So if you can’t afford or don’t want children, and you can’t afford birth control, then celibacy is the only answer for you (and your husband or wife if you happen to be married).
A further corollary of this oh,so, humane way of thinking seems to be that if you should ever presume to rise above your station by, say having sex when you can’t afford birth control, then you deserve to be punished–in this case by having children you weren’t ready for or didn’t want.
All this naturally traces back to the underlying belief, which is that money is a measure of virtue: If you have money, you’re clearly a good person, and deserve to be rich. If you’re poor, you clearly suck and are a bad person, and you deserve no pity or empathy or help, and should be made to suffer as a warning to others.
It’s vile and cruel and vicious, but I believe that’s what these people believe.
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